New home - hopefully

So, we had good news today.
Hubby and I put in an offer on a house a few weeks ago.
The offer was accepted, and we have been waiting for the appraisal to come through.
Well, it came through today, and it came back looking good, so we are good to go.  Closing will hopefully be next week.
We are first time buyers, so it's all quite exciting but scary.

 The past few weeks have been a bit stressful  I am hoping when it closes it will be a bit calmer.

I don't want to let myself get too excited about it until we have the keys, but it's sort of hard not too.  I can't help but think about the things I want to do to it.

It has such a nice garden, and I've already started reading up on how I need to take care of it.  I've never had a garden to take care of.  I am sure I'll be able to provide some interesting stories of my mess ups,  over the next few weeks, months etc.

Gay Marriage - What's the big deal?

This Saturday, November 15th 10:30am PST/1:30pm EST a Protest is being held across the USA against Prop 8.

I have to admit, I was excited last week when Obama was elected. This was closely followed by disappointment as the ballot results came in:

Arizona: Ban on Gay Marriage
Arkansas: Ban on Gay Couple adopting children
California: Ban on Gay Marriage
Florida: Ban on Gay Marriage

Each on of these bans went through.

I really struggle to understand why the majority of people believe that gay marriage and gay adoption is wrong. Some of the arguments that I have heard in support of the bans include how marriage is sacred (then why do we allow divorce?), children have the right to a loving mother and father (yet many children are abused by straight parents).

Really, want impact does it have on a person if a gay couple, who love each other get married. Does it really matter? Why shouldn’t two people that love each other be able to be together, and be able to commit to each other in the same way that a straight person can. Why should your sexual orientation affect your rights as a human?

It is a common misconception is that GLBT folks choose “the gay lifestyle”. The only choice involved is the choice to be honest with yourself, and open with others, and to come to terms with all that you are, and to integrate that into your life. Just as straight people do not choose who they fall in love with, neither do gay people. Sure there’s a choice on whether you spend your life with that person, but you don’t choose who you are in love with.

Please take time on Saturday and attend the protest in your area, see here for more information about the Protest Prop 8, I’ll be at the Portland one.

Love Update

I wrote back in July about Ryan breaking up with me. Since then Ryan and I continued to live together with the plan of moving out once I was back from my UK trip. Over the course of the past few weeks, beginning 2 weeks before I left for the UK, Ryan and I have been having conversations about getting back together. There were many things to be discussed, and I didn’t want to make a decision right away, after all, this was not the first time that we’d been on this bridge.

Well, after many conversations, and deep discussion, and after almost a month apart, we have decided to give it another shot. I am very happy about this. He is a great guy, and I think we are great together. I am of course going back into this with caution however, just in case he gets spooked again. We’ve dug deep into the reason that caused his flight, and have agreed that if we reach that point again, we’ll fight to stay together before we just give up. Of course only time will tell. In the meantime, we are just enjoying our relationship day by day, and we’ll see where it goes.

I just figured I owed you all an update.

Hate

Have you seen or heard of this site http://www.hatebook.com/?

A friend of mine just sent it to me, and I thought it was kind of neat. Sort of like that secrets thing. I quite like being able to see the things that bother other people.

Its amazing how much time can be spent at either of these two sites.

I was reading the secrets from Sunday July 12th, and it brought a tear to me eye.

It gave me a different perspective on my own life.

Happy Days

I’ve seen a couple of people this week that I haven’t seen for a while, and they both commented on how happy I am looking at the moment. It got me to thinking about how different my life is there year compared to last year.

This time last year I was in a job I didn’t like, I was living in suburbia and I was engaged to a guy who drained every ounce of energy I had. I have to say the worst part of those three was the guy. We’d got engaged after only 8 months of dating, which is not something I ever thought of myself doing. To be honest, I felt a little pressured to say yes, I did compromise by giving us a relatively long engagement, however, if I hadn’t have broken things off I’d have been married for a month now.

I'll post later about the idiot boy, it may make an interesting read.

When I think back to last September, which is the month my life started to turnaround, it was a horrid month, but I think that sometimes it takes something bad, or painful to change things.

My life now better than I ever thought it could be. I am doing a job I am really good at, and I feel that I can make a difference, even if its just a small one. The team I work with are a lot of fun, and even though I have only been working with them for about a week, we are able to talk about things openly and get into some really great discussions.

I love my new apartment, and living downtown, although the weather has been quite horrid lately, I still get myself out of the apartment more and walking around downtown, than where I previously lived.

And then, there's the wbf. He makes my life seem so easy. I don't have to pick up after him, as he is very will house trainined, so the house is tidy most of the time. I can go home and talk about my day at work with him, and he does the same, but its not a tiring experience. We also love each other so much. Sickenly so at times, but it makes me happy. He makes me smile!

I just feel so darn lucky to be me right now :)